Boundries and Joy in Life

[MetDream]

I ran acroos this quote today and am curious as to what you all think about this philisophy:

"Eating everything you want is not that much fun. When you live a life with no boundaries, there's less joy. If you can eat anything you want to, what's the fun in eating anything you want to?"

Do boundries provide more joy in life?

[metmum]

You have have to look at rich celebrites to see what having no boundaries does for a person. They aren't any happier than the rest of us in fact a lot less I would say and can do and have what ever they want. Boundaries are what make a society function, imagine what the world would be without legal, moral or one's own boundaries.

[Pete-Rock]

I'd say that life is like a pendulum, swinging between two opposite sides, like black and white, yin and yang or whatever, without completely reaching one side. Your life is never completely bad or completely good, or in other words: when something really cool happens it always has a shadow in it and when something bad happens, it has always a chance in it. For example if you are loosing your job (bad) it is always a chance to question yourself, what you have done, what you could have done better, and a challenge, to reach for new highs (good). Or the other way: When you choose to love someone, or have a child with someone (good), there's always the fear to loose him/her (bad). Other example: There are several things in ones nature which are taken as a bad habit in common, for example jealousy. But jealousy isnt only bad, it has something good in it. When your guy is going out at night to have some beer with his friends and you kiss him goodbye and say with a smile "hey handsome, dont you look at other girls", this is some very soft kind of jealousy which shows your man that you love him and care for him and your relationship. Jealousy becomes bad, when it gets to be some sickness, when you dont let you guy leave the house at all, because you are scared he could meet other women. Do you know what I mean?

So... to get to your philosophy about boundaries: Yes, boundaries provide more joy in life, or in other words: They let you savor and enjoy things more. If you dont know the dark sides in life, how can you tell what the bright side is? If you dont know how it feels to feel bad, how should you know, or even more: enjoy, when you feel good? How can you cherish love, when you never cried about someone? How can you tell the pendulum which I talked about in the beginning has swung to one side, when you have never felt it swing to the other side? There wont be no black and no white, only a very monotone grey.

(footnote: as English is not my mother tongue, it is very difficult for me to talk about such things in English, so I really hope you understand what I mean.... it is too important for being not understood )

[MetDream]

You explained it perfectly. I agree with alot of what you wrote.

[hellawaits77]

In short, because I don't feel like typing, yes. An easy example in my eyes, I LOVE days off! But if I didn't work a lot, I wouldn't appreciate them. Instead of an unordinary, enjoyable day, I would have a normal (yet still enjoyable) day.