A loss in my family

[no leaf clover]

Don't know why I'm sharing this here but just want to say that I'm about to lose my mother-in-law.

She has cancer and it's the 4th time she's been diagnosed with cancer the last 2 years.

It's the mother of my wife and to see her in pain really breaks my heart. Nothing I can do but hold her, hug her and talk to her.
My boys are losing their grandmother. The youngest is 2 and too young to really understand what's going on but my 4 year old starts asking questions and what are you gonna say to him?
It's such a difficult situation.

Unfortunately this is not the first time I've lost a loved one.
At the age of 14 a good friend of mine died in a traffic accident when we were both in high school, I lost all my grand parents, some colleagues are already gone.
But this is very different.

I realised with every loss that there isn't an easy way to deal with the pain and grief.

As we speak I'm doing something that always helps me in a situation like this and that's listening to music that means something to me.

Like I said don't know why I share it here but I guess I needed this to get of my chest.

[norbinho]

really sorry to hear that, my friend, especially too for your boys

[aeiseleusa]

I am also really sorry to hear that, but let me tell you that children move on quicker than adaults. When I lost my dad from one minute to the other, my Girls handled it well and moved on quickly. And now already 3 years have past.
I think it is way harder for grown ups.
Alle the best to you and your Family.

[vht]

I'm sorry to hear that. Stay strong.

[Metallenko]

My condolences for your loss! I experienced this in 2014 and completely understand how you feel. I lost my grandmother and mother in law in same year. At the end of this year my daughter was born (exactly one month ago) and we are now happy again. We lost relatives but was born a new member of our family.

[TayfunRaider]

You just want to share the grief and relieve. That's totally human.
The more you share the less you suffer. Wish you and your wife strength.

[Metallifreak]

Hey Sebastiaan, really sorry to hear about that. All my thoughts are with you and your wife, and of course your kids too. Remember the good times with here, she will always life in your heart. Wish you and your family all the best, be strong.

[sjmike]

Sorry to hear of your loss, I know dealing with grief can be difficult. Cancer sucks! I lost my dad and my uncle (exactly 1 month apart) to cancer several years ago.

[Alexander2010]

Sorry to hear it, my friend. I do not know what to say, cause my parents are still alive and I do not understand what you feel. Just wish you to have a lot strength and patience and hope your family help you to come over that hard phase in your life.

[Paganec]

Yep, this is how life works unfortunately, once you diagnosed with cancer it's a timing, you can't cure it, it's in our DNA, I advise everyone to go to the doctors and check your health not only when you feel bad, but when you feel good as well. If not for yourself, do it for your family. As a person who went through terrible loses myself, for me time was always my best friend. Good for you if creating this thread helped you a little bit.

If there's a good thing about cancer (which is not), it's gonna be an opportunity to say proper goodbye. When I lost my father due to stroke I couldn't say goodbye. And it's the most painful and most devastating knowledge.

All the best to you and your family.